This week marks the start of my 3rd trimester of pregnancy. 28 weeks. I can’t believe it’s come this fast. Despite being more than ready to meet this little girl and embrace the challenges of new motherhood, I am still woefully unprepared to bring her home and step away from my job for 3+ months. Still so much to buy and prep and do!
Preparing for baby in all the big and little ways that one prepares for such things has been both fun and stressful. Jonathan is hyper-involved in everything, but most of the research on baby gear and essentials has fallen to me—mostly because I’ve embraced it like it’s a full time job. But one area where we’ve both been particularly attentive is to the issue of baby names.I don’t know how most couples approach this kind of thing in the early stages of their relationship, but Jonathan and I—once we were each aware of the other’s interest in having kids someday—talked openly about baby name preferences before nearly anything else, including marriage. It was probably because talking about baby names is one of my favorite topics of conversation period, full stop, and I forced him to talk to me about it. Six years ago, it was very important that he know how I felt about his preferred boy’s name, Doc (“Hell no.”), and it was necessary that I knew his feelings about my favorite girl’s name at the time, Laila (“Not feeling it…”).
He was such a good sport.
And so it went, the “What about…?” discussion happening a hundred times over the years, thus we were able to narrow down our top choices to a short list of possibilities that sat in stasis for upwards of three years. When we found out we were having a baby—and especially when we found out it was a girl—Jonathan’s baby naming seriousness kicked into high gear. Something about the reality of picking a name for a real live person to have for their entire life makes you look at all your name choices differently. At least, it did for us.
A big discussion of late has been whether (and how) to honor family members in the naming of our baby. So many individual names and name combos we love, and that made our list, have little or nothing to do with family legacy. We liked the idea of family names, but neither of us thought it really mattered all that much when we were just ruminating over ideas. Now though… with an actual baby brewing… we are weighing all the pros and cons.
There are lots of pros and cons, it turns out.
So at 28 weeks, we’re honing in on a much shorter short list of names, with one that’s peaking out as the favorite. It’s mind-boggling to have thought so much about baby names for so many years (long before Jonathan was even a blip on my romantic radar), and now… we get to name one. A girl who will hopefully live a long life with that name, carrying it into adulthood, hearing it through the voices of friends and lovers, putting it on job resumes!
The weight of such a life long decision is not lost on us. We’re so honored to get the opportunity to name a human being—bestowing upon her the first little piece of her identity.
We’ve made the decision not to announce or discuss the baby’s name until she’s born, primarily because I would like to reserve the right to change my mind after seeing her little face! It’s tough though, since I love talking about them so much…
SO TELL ME: If you’ve got some favorite baby names, or your children are already named and you love talking about the why and how you came up with that name, let me know in the comments. Are there names you used to love, but your partner nixed them? What about names you are sad you couldn’t use because you are done having children? I would absolutely love to read all about it!
Baby names. I seriously can’t get enough.